Many people who live in Japan report finding it difficult to strike up conversations with Japanese people.
I did too, when I lived in Tokyo.
If I was going to be able to chat to people and practise my Japanese, I was going to have to do things in a more Japanese way.
So I set about asking my Japanese friends for conversation starters that they themselves would use.
This list is the result.
It's broken down into typical situations you might find yourself in in Japan, and conversation starters that you can use in each to start chatting to people!
Use these next time you want to get a bit of practice when you're out and about!
A note of caution: I have some unusual friends. 😉 Not all of these will be to everyone's taste, but hopefully there will be something in here that will serve as inspiration!
If you're afraid of speaking Japanese, you might like to check out this post first! For 42 of the best-ever ideas for learning Japanese, click here! To find a language partner in Tokyo, read this post, and to learn to write in Japanese, you need this.
1) 写真を撮ってもらえませんか？Shashin wo totte moraemasen ka?
Would you mind taking a photo for me?
2) 初めて来たのですが、この辺りで美味しいお店を知っていますか？Hajimete kita no desu ga, kono atari de oishii o-mise wo shitte-imasuka?
It's the first time I've come here, do you know any nice restaurants around here?
3) ここは日本の人もよく来るところですか？Koko wa nihon no hito mo yoku kuru tokoro desu ka?
Is this a place that Japanese people also often come to?
4) 近くに地元の人も行くお店はありますか？Chikaku ni jimoto no hito mo iku o-mise wa arimasu ka?
Are there any restaurants around here that local people go to?
…in front of the 賽銭箱 (saisenbako) where you make a coin offering:
5) いくら入れたらいいですか？ Ikura iretara ii desu ka?
How much should I put in?
Random fact: Did you know that at temples, people often throw 5 yen (or 50 yen) in the box, because 5 yen – ごえん – is the same pronunciation as ご縁, meaning fate or destiny?
6) 邦画を観てみたいのですが、何がいいですか？Houga wo mite-mitai desu ga, nani ga ii desu ka?
I fancy watching a Japanese film – do you know what's good?
7) 最近何を観ましたか？ Saikin nani wo mimashita ka?
What [film] have you seen recently?
8) お勧めの映画はありますか？Osusume no eiga wa arimasuka?
Can you recommend a good film?
9) この電車は「渋谷」へ行きますか？ Kono densha wa [Shibuya] e ikimasu ka?
Is this train heading to [Shibuya]?
10) 何分後に来ますか？ Nan-pun go ni kimasu ka?
How long is the next train going to be? [Lit: in how many minutes is the next train coming?]
11) 「新宿」までどの位かかりますか？ [Shinjuku] made dono gurai kakarimasu ka?
How long does it take to get to [Shinjuku]?
12) どこで乗り換えればいいですか？ Doko de norikaereba ii desu ka?
Where should I change trains? [Follow on from last question]
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In increasing order of depravity (you have been warned!)
13) どこから来たの？ Doko kara kita no?
Where are you from?
14) 何してるの？ Nani shiteru no?
What are you up to?
15) 名前は？ Namae wa?
What's your name?
16) その服どこで買ったの？ Sono fuku doko de katta no?
Where did you get those clothes from? [Lit: buy those clothes]
17) 何飲んでるの？ Nani nonderu no?
What are you drinking?
18) 目の色は何色？Me no iro wa nan-iro?
What colour are your eyes?
19) 違うところで、二人で飲もうよ。 Chigau tokoro de, futari de nomou yo.
Let's go and have a drink together somewhere else!
20) 英語教えてあげようか？ Eigo oshiete ageyou ka?
Shall I teach you a bit of English?
21) 英語教えてあげるから、二人で飲もうよ。 Eigo oshiete-ageru kara, futari de nomou yo.
I'll teach you English if we can have a drink together!
22) 彼氏いる？ Kareshi iru?
Do you have a boyfriend?
23) 近くにラブホありますか？ Chikaku ni ra-bu-ho arimasuka?
Is there a Love Hotel around here?
I asked a few Japanophiles on Twitter about their favourite conversation starters.
24) @blacktokyo summed it up best:
25) @BellvaSymphony called out an old classic:
My friend and Japanese aficionado Luca Toma sent me these tried and tested exchanges:
26) A: Kyou wa ii tenki desu ne! B: Sou desu ne. [Yamada]-san wa kyou….
27) A: Kyou wa hontou ni atsui desu ne! B: Sou desu ne. Mou iya desu ne….
These last few ideas were refreshingly simple, and reminded me of a good rule of thumb when starting conversations with people: keep it simple!<
If you find it difficult or nerve-wracking to start chatting to people, it's good to remember that a simple comment or greeting is more than enough to get the ball rolling! You can save the pyrotechnics for another day!28) If in doubt, just follow @JapanLite‘s lead:
@Olly_IWTYAL never thought about it, really. Atsui desu ne seems to rule all.
— Amy Chavez (@JapanLite) September 8, 2014
So there you have it. 28 conversations starters for (almost) any occasion, to get you speaking more Japanese than ever before!
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