Spanish Reflexive Verbs Explained: A 5-Part Guide For Confused Spanish Learners

When you learn Spanish and you hear the term, “Spanish reflexive verbs,” what comes to mind?

Do you immediately think of an example ? Or does the term fill you with dread?

No matter how you react, there's no need to panic. Reflexive verbs are such a big part of everyday Spanish that chances are good you know some already.

But you probably have some questions about them. And answering those questions is the goal of this post. Here's what you'll learn:

1. What are reflexive verbs?
2. What are some common reflexive verbs in Spanish?
3. How do I know when a reflexive verb is really needed?
4. Where do I place reflexive pronouns?
5. What do I need to know to fully master reflexive verbs?

By the end of this post, you'll be using Spanish reflexive verbs fluently and confidently.

If you prefer watching videos, hit play below to watch the video version of this blog post. Otherwise, keep scrolling to read about how to finally master Spanish reflexive verbs.

#1 What Are Spanish Reflexive Verbs And How Do You Use Them?

Before jumping into Spanish reflexive verbs, let's take a step back and review a few parts of speech so this article will make total sense.

Verbs are words that express action. In Spanish, they end in –ar, –ir, or –er before being conjugated to match the subject.

The subject of a sentence is the person, place, or thing that is doing something. Identifying the subject is especially important in Spanish because the verb conjugation will change depending on the subject.

Pronouns are words that take the place of a noun in a sentence. In the following example, ella takes the place of “Maria” in the second sentence:

Maria tiene que ir a la escuela hoy. Ella se olvidó sus libros en el aula.

Those three parts of speech are all you need to know to understand reflexive verbs.

As for Spanish reflexive verbs, they're a special type of verb that direct back to the subject.

You can see an explanation right there in the name: reflexive verbs and pronouns reflect back to the subject who is doing the action. For this reason, the conjugation always matches the subject of the sentence:

Nos fuimos del concerto temprano. (We left the concert early)

In Spanish, there are five reflexive pronouns:

• me
• te
• se
• nos
• and os

Note that se can function as a second- or third-person pronoun (usted or él/ella) as well as a singular or plural pronoun (usted/ustedes or ellos/ellas).

In this example, both the verb conjugation (fuimos) and the reflexive pronoun (nos) match the subject (we). That's why it's so important to know exactly what the subject is in any given sentence.

#2 The Most Common Spanish Reflexive Verbs

Here's a list of some of the most common reflexive verbs in Spanish:

• Irse (to leave)
• Acordarse (to remember)
• Olvidarse (to forget)
• Sentirse (to feel)
• Darse (to give oneself)
• Encontrarse (to find oneself)
• Preocuparse (to worry)
• Fijarse (to take notice)
• Casarse (to marry)
• Sentarse (to sit down)
• Levantarse (to get up)
• Despertarse (to wake up oneself)
• Preguntarse (to wonder)
• Llamarse (to call oneself)
• Creerse (to believe)
• Reunirse (to meet up or reunite)
• Cuidarse (to take care)

Some reflexive verbs are always reflexive, while others have both reflexive and non-reflexive forms, which I'll talk about next.

#3 How To Know When To Use A Spanish Reflexive Verb

There are five basic categories of reflexive verbs: routines, motion, emotions, reciprocals, and verbs that are always reflexive.

• Routines: These are verbs that describe daily routines, usually surrounding getting up and ready each day, such as despertarse, peinarse, and levantarse.
• Motion: Some verbs, such as irse, describe motion or movement.
• Emotions: Many emotions use reflexive forms, including aburrirse, preocuparse, and crearse.
• Reciprocals are only reflexive in their plural forms, meaning two or more people are doing something together or to each other, like in the case of casarse or encontrarse.
• Always reflexive: A small number of Spanish verbs are always reflexive, including quejarse de (to complain about), darse cuenta de (to realize), and arrepentirse (to repent).

Whether or not a verb is reflexive changes the meaning of the sentence. So it's a good idea to know whether you want the reflexive form or not.

Por ejemplo: Start by identifying the subject in the following sentence:

Me desperté a las ocho. (I woke up at 8.)

The subject is “I”, so the reflexive verb is conjugated in the first person (desperté). I am waking up myself, so the reflexive pronoun is me.

However, if I woke up someone else, that changes which verb form I need:

Desperté a los niños a las ocho. (I woke up the kids at 8).

The verb is still conjugated in the first person because I am still the subject of the sentence. In this case, however, the verb is no longer reflecting back to the subject, so I don't use the reflexive form.

And what if the children woke themselves up? I'd go back to using the reflexive form:

Los niños se despertaron a las ocho. (The kids woke up at 8.)

#4 Where Do You Place Spanish Reflexive Pronouns?

In the examples above, the reflexive pronouns were all placed directly in front of the reflexive verb. This is the common and correct placement in many situations, but not all.

In reality, you have two options for pronoun placement.

Option 1: Before The Verb

Reflexive pronouns come before the verb, compound tense, or construction in all tenses or moods except affirmative commands.

In these examples, notice that the reflexive pronoun comes before the entire verb phrase in cases where estar or haber form the complete conjugation:

• In the subjunctive: Quiero que te diviertas. (I want you to have fun.)
• In the progressive: Se están quedando aquí. (They are staying here.)
• In the perfect tense: Ya me había mudado. (I had already moved.)
• In negative commands: No te preocupes. (Don't worry.)
• In the popular future: Nos vamos a casar. (We're going to get married.)

Option 2: After The Verb

In a few instances, the reflexive pronoun is actually attached to the end of the reflexive verb itself:

• In affirmative commands: ¡Cálmate! (Calm down!)
• With gerunds: Están quedándose aquí. (They are staying here.)
• With the infinitive: Vamos a casarnos. (We're going to get married).

You probably noticed that the last two examples, the gerund and infinitive, are variations of similar sentences from Option 1. That's because with gerunds and infinitives, you can choose between either placement option.

#5 Truly Mastering Reflexive Verbs in Spanish

The key to truly mastering reflexive verbs in Spanish is to know the difference between reflexive and non-reflexive versions of the same verb.

“Get bored” doesn't exist in Spanish, so aburrir/aburrirse is a great example for you to look at:

Te aburrirías con las clases. (You'd get bored with these classes.)

In this example, the boredom reflects back on you. You are getting bored, so the reflexive verb (aburrirse) is appropriate here.

On the other hand, if you want to say that the class itself is boring, that does not require the reflexive form of the pronoun:

La clase te aburriría. (The class would bore you.)

In this example, the class is the subject and a pronoun isn't needed to reflect back to the subject at all.

Here's another set of examples, showing how you would decide whether or not the reflexive form is called for:

• Juan y Tatiana se acordaron de la primera vez que fueron al restaurante. (Juan and Tatiana remembered the first time they went to the restaurant.)
• Juan y Tatiana acordaron el restaurante para la fiesta. (Juan and Tatiana agreed on the restaurant for the party.)

In the case of acordar and acordarse, the meaning changes completely whether or not you use the reflexive form of the verb. Acordar means to agree. Acordarse, on the other hand, means to remember.

Here are a few more verbs that have completely different meanings in their reflexive forms:

• dormir (to sleep)/dormirse (to fall asleep)
• poner (to put)/ponerse (to put on)
• probar (to try)/probarse (to try on)
• quitar (to take away)/quitarse (to take off)
• llevar (to carry)/llevarse (to take)
• volver (to return)/volverse (to turn around)

Practice Makes Perfect…Or Close Enough, Anyway

In Spanish, many verbs are more literal than in English.

Nos encontramos literally means “to find each other”, whereas in English we would say “we met up” instead.

Many of these distinctions come with practice and exposure to plenty of authentic Spanish. When you follow the rules of the StoryLearning method, that means reading stories in Spanish.

So in addition to revising the rules for using reflexive verbs in Spanish, be sure to get plenty of exposure to authentic Spanish through reading, listening to, and speaking Spanish every single day.

You'll soon be able to pick out reflexive verbs in real time. They will become second nature to you, and you'll be able to use and understand them without having to think about it beforehand.